The Tools To Use: For Growth

When you are around destructive people, it is always shrewd to stay constructive. No matter where you are located or what you are doing, there are folks who will try to sabotage you or a project you are trying to accomplish. So stay on guard and be aware of these types of individuals. When you do cross paths (and you will) with these people, create a plan of action. Do you have a plan? If not, feel free to employ mine.

Over the years, I have come across many of people who I deemed to be caustic. These types of people seldom had kind words; they habitually found negativity in conversation, ideas, or concepts that differed from theirs. So, I created a plan of action to defuse the situation.

When I come across disparaging people, I either flip-them or allow them to hear themselves. 

Flip-them, I know this may sound sadistic, but trust me it’s not. My definition of “flip-them” (and you notice I use the hyphen) is a term I use that means to convert the theme of the conversation. Change the conversation from negative to positive. (See how positively smart I am) This method does not only change the order of the atmosphere but also put you in control of the conversation.

Another way to get rid of negative conversation is to allow the ‘Frantic Frank’ himself to hear his negative statements. Hearing his word will make him feel inane and humiliated. Snappishly he will change the topic. Trust me, most of the time, this technique works. So you see, conversion is a powerful tool if it’s used the right way.

Think positive, Speak positive, Play positive! ~Team Tamara~