Opportunity and Preparation

The idiom "Preparation meets opportunity" very true. Today I had the opportunity that I patiently waited to come my way. Unfortunately, I was not prepared. Although I am a stickler about this idiom and every day when I look in the mirror, I recite, "Tamara, be prepared for opportunity", today,  I wasn't. I have to say I am a bit disappointed in myself because I wanted this so badly. For several hours, I was depressed and mentally beat myself up about the matter. But, I bounced back quickly! I realized my answers to the questions were more general than specific, so the next time I meet opportunity, my answers to the questions asked will be specific. In all things, I have to continue to be and stay positive. Some days I am not at my best, but it's okay because I'm human. I tell myself, "It's okay that's what humans do at times. If anyone has experienced missed opportunity for lack of preparation, it's okay, think of it as the learning and growing process. Simply, reflect, prepared, and do and be your best the next time opportunity knocks on your door.

Defeating Barriers

Ladies, we can't always be damsels in distress. Sometimes it's cool to play that role, but for the most part, we shouldn't. We always have to be equipped to deal with every adversity that comes our way, and there will be plenty. Our mothers taught us how to jump when we were young because they knew that we would face the obstacle of life. In that obstacle, there will be an overwhelming amount of hurdles. We can leap and jump across the barriers with ease. Some barriers will be a bit more difficult to jump across but nevertheless they are jumpable. We cannot fall through the cracks; we must always keep our symbolic can of sealant so that we can seal up the cracks as they come. Let's show our strength in all things. 

Selflessness

I want to live life helping, inspiring, and encouraging people. I want to be the person that everyone needs in his/her life similar to a Forrest Gump character. See Forrest Gump showed loyalty, unconditional love, and compassion. He was absolutely candid. I want to love unconditional. I want my heart to be in everything that I give. It's so much easier to be positively better each day. Helping others definitely, completes me. It brings me great joy when I know that I have reached someone in a positive way. So whenever I go out and interact with people, I make sure to smile and say kind words to everyone I cross paths with. To everyone stay inspired and continue to follow your dreams, goals, and passion.

LOVE

How does one allow love to slip into his/her heart? I often wonder. I’m not sure if I allow love to be a part of my life. My truth is that love has to live with me, not I with it. The kind of love I am referring to is the affection for someone in an intimate, non-platonic, form. Intimate as in giving one’s self no hold bars, the kind of love that alter one’s logic, the kind of love that causes one to do something without asking or questioning, the kind of love that causes one not to care how long he/she knows someone before making love, the kind of love that causes one not to realize that he/she is sick, and the kind of love that causes one to be free.

Love, what is this specific kind of love?

Transparent

It’s been a few months since I posted, but I have been writing. I took some time away to actually find my voice. All writers know how important voice and tone are. I have been pondering around different ideas and topics. I don't want to be too personal, yet I want to be able to connect with others. Most of the time, I write from a dark place;  it’s my comfort zone. Becoming transparent is my goal. I'm inviting the world into my life.

I am ready to introduce the world to Tamara.

DO MORE

In response to a conversation I had on the topics of passions, people, and supporters, I decided to post an encouraging message to people who want to pursue their ambition.

You love what you do, and you do it well. You decide to put your passion on the front burner. You are absolutely pursuing your dream, BUT people are not supporting you, especially the folks you love. 

Put up (you know which fingers), find different supporters, and pursue what gives you excitement.

What I have learned over the years is that people do not define who I am or determine what I should do—it’s my job. So I stepped up to the plate and put my dream into reality, and so should you!!!

If you are excited about a project and always wanted to pursue it because of the lack of support from others— people who are dear to your heart, then you are uninvested in your potential. 

Shake it off and invest in yourself!

DO IT AND DO MORE OF IT. Put your blueprint to work and labor in it every day, noon, and night. After all, your passion is never tedious. Working at it habitually will make you better and better and better (you get the point). 

Encourage yourself. You have a brain that controls everything in your body, so why not direct it towards yourself—opposed to others, especially the non-supporters. What I am saying here is the cerebrum is associated with thoughts and actions. So, take action and think about yourself. Use your brain to give yourself:

• A high-five
• A complement 
• Approbation 

Before you die—and you will one day, pursue the thing that tickles your fancy. Do not worry about support from people you love; your praises will exert through strangers.

                   LIVE~ACCOMPLISH~ENJOY

TEAM TAMARA!

The Tools To Use: For Growth

When you are around destructive people, it is always shrewd to stay constructive. No matter where you are located or what you are doing, there are folks who will try to sabotage you or a project you are trying to accomplish. So stay on guard and be aware of these types of individuals. When you do cross paths (and you will) with these people, create a plan of action. Do you have a plan? If not, feel free to employ mine.

Over the years, I have come across many of people who I deemed to be caustic. These types of people seldom had kind words; they habitually found negativity in conversation, ideas, or concepts that differed from theirs. So, I created a plan of action to defuse the situation.

When I come across disparaging people, I either flip-them or allow them to hear themselves. 

Flip-them, I know this may sound sadistic, but trust me it’s not. My definition of “flip-them” (and you notice I use the hyphen) is a term I use that means to convert the theme of the conversation. Change the conversation from negative to positive. (See how positively smart I am) This method does not only change the order of the atmosphere but also put you in control of the conversation.

Another way to get rid of negative conversation is to allow the ‘Frantic Frank’ himself to hear his negative statements. Hearing his word will make him feel inane and humiliated. Snappishly he will change the topic. Trust me, most of the time, this technique works. So you see, conversion is a powerful tool if it’s used the right way.

Think positive, Speak positive, Play positive! ~Team Tamara~